Improving the lives of families with twins, triplets or more

Older Multiples

Secondary School

As your children near the end of their primary school life, you need to make decisions about secondary school. Whatever decisions you made over primary schooling, secondary school is a new situation with a new set of circumstances so you have to consider all the options again. The big difference now is that your children are older, so ask them for their opinion. Encourage them to feel involved in the decision without being responsible for it.

The issue of separation becomes more complex at this stage, for example, you have boy/girl twins, as single sex schools may become an option. Where a selection process is in place (the 11+ or entrance examinations, even for many comprehensive schools), one child might pass the test and another fail, which highlights academic differences.

Twins do need gradually to become independent from each other, so that by the time they finish their secondary education they will be ready to lead separate lives, while still being good friends with a strong bond between them. Tamba’s experience shows that for many multiples, the ideal situation would be different classes within the same school, so that they would have the chance to develop as individuals, while supporting each other and spurring each other on.

Puberty

Every family will have a different experience of adolescence, but a few problems are more likely with multiples. The growing difference between boy and girl multiples becomes even more noticeable. This can impose a huge strain on previously very close relationships, as the girls turn into the young women, while the boys are still giggling boys. For girl multiples, the fact that the beginning of periods can be up to three years apart can also cause strain. Multiples will always compare themselves first and foremost with their fellow multiples, and the nature of physical development at adolescence can make differences hard to deny.

 
 
 

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