People think that being a twin is fun and magical, but in reality, twin relationships can be difficult to navigate and the relationship between multiples does not always run smoothly.
University and Beyond
Read the story of Jess & Dan as they leave home for separate universities.
If you feel that you need counselling for issues relating to being an adult multiple you can contact the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) to search for a qualified counsellor in your area.
Read the experiences of James & Tim as they develop outside relationships and marry.
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Given the intense nature of twin and multiple bonds, the death of a twin or multiple, whether at birth or later, is an incomparable loss. Surviving multiples talk about the never-ending – and impossible – search for someone close enough to replace the missing sibling. It is a sense of loss that for some will never go away. Grieving multiples speak of it being like a jigsaw where there is always a piece missing.
If you have lost your twin or multiple sibling please contact The Lone Twin Network, all members are surviving twins and have had that unique understanding of what it means to lose part of yourself when your twin dies.
Tamba Webinar - The Same But Different - From Teen to Adult
Tamba is offering the opportunity for teenage and adult multiples and for parents of teenage multiples to listen to a recording of a webinar that we have created in partnership with leading twin expert and author Dr Joan Friedman.
The Same but Different - From Teen to Adult is a questions and answer webinar covering questions such as:
I don't know how to tell my twin I need more space without hurting his feelings? What do I do?
I feel like I'm constantly in my triplets shadow. They are both so much more successful than me. Can you help me?
My twin is getting married and I feel like I have been deserted. Can you help me?
How can I tell my twin that I want to change aspects of our relationship without hurting their feelings?
During the webinar Joan covers twin closeness - assumptions and realities, separation blues, my twin - my caretaker and conflicting loyalties/feelings. The webinar should give teenage and adult twins a better understanding of the intricacies of adult twin relationships, how to have an honest and authentic relationship with your multiple, how to navigate through the issues of separation, individuality and codependence.
The total cost of the webinar is £6. Once you have ordered the webinar you will receive an email with a link to listen to the recording and attached copy of the slides. You can then listen to it at a time that is convenient to you. We aim to email out the webinar within 5 working days of you ordering it. Please note that this webinar is not live and you cannot ask any questions. For further information and reading you may also like to purchase Joan's book, The Same but Different - How Twins Can Live, Love and Learn to be Individuals.
Joan has also written another book for families with younger multiples called Emotionally Healthy Twins - A New Philosopy for Parenting Two Unique Children and she has her own website www.joanafriedmanphd.com
Become a Tamba member today to listen to Family Therapist Audrey Sandbank talk about life for older multiples, including meeting parters and dealing with berevement.
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