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Together or apart?

The first big question to consider about school is: together or apart? Can your children achieve independence from their siblings if they are educated together, or should they be separated? There are no absolute answers. You need to consider your children’s characters and the way they interact with each other, as well as the educational options available in your area. Of course if you have triplets or more, or if the school has one-form entry, this will affect your options.

In the beginning, as long as the children enjoy each other’s company and are not overly competitive, they are likely to benefit from starting together. Having siblings in the same class usually makes it easier to settle in – especially if they don’t know the other children. They can be separated later – and often are by the age of eight.

Remember that no decision is irreversible – and the children are only at school for a few hours each day: most of their life is spent at home, with the family.

If you are unsure and want some guidance about whether to school your multiples together or apart, take a look at the Together or Apart guidance and checklist. This document was produced by the Hackney Learning Trust, with Tamba's support, as a resource for parents deciding whether to put their multiples in the same or different classes. 

You can also come along to our talk 'Preparing your Multiples for Pre/Primary School' which is held in London and other locations.  For details of when the next talk is click here.

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