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Remembering babies and children together

14th June 2019

Last Sunday was a beautiful morning for the second memorial meet-up of the Tamba Bereavement Support Group (BSG) in the gorgeous chapel at the Grange Wellington Hotel, London. Organised and led by the group’s dedicated co-ordinator, Sharon Darke, the day gave parents, grandparents and siblings the opportunity to remember their babies together.

The Quilt of Lost Dreams, lovingly handmade by Sue Bamblett, took pride of place at the front of the chapel. Sharon said, “It was particularly lovely to see the children going to find the square for their sibling or survivor. I watched one little boy go and find his twin brother’s square a number of times.”

There was a special fingerprint tree for siblings and survivors, too.

In his introduction, Keith Reed, Tamba CEO, explained how bereaved parents represent an important part of Tamba. He also spoke of Tamba’s work to reduce the number of stillbirths and neonatal deaths among multiples.

Parents bravely stood up to tell their stories. Beautiful and poignant poems were read out. Three songs especially recorded by Sharon’s daughter, Jess, provided a wonderful background to reflect, light candles and hang the butterflies on the tree.

Sharon shared her recent fundraising experience, doing The London Marathon. She told us, “It was such a pleasure to remember all of our babies together. We then spent the next few hours much more informally, eating lunch and chatting.”

Judi Linney MBE, brought the day to a close by sharing her experiences of starting Tamba. She reflected on the vital role that befrienders have always played at Tamba, providing support to many families.

Keith Reed concluded, “It was touching to read the many, many butterflies for all those that had lost babies but couldn’t be there in person.  It clearly meant a great deal to lots of families.”

Tamba's dedicated Bereavement Support Group was set up to support all UK families who have lost a multiple birth baby or babies. To find out more, visit www.tamba.org.uk/bereavement.





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