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Things you get used to with pre-teen twins and triplets

4th March 2019

Our kids are growing up. But they still need us.  A cuddle and a plaster used to make everything better.  With new concerns about school, homework and friendships, solutions are harder to find.  But we’re loving the challenge.

Here are some of the things we’re getting used to as parents of pre-teen twins, triplets or more.

Not being called mummy or daddy any more.
Actually, for some of us, it happened years ago, and we don’t even notice anymore. Others may say their preteens still call them ‘that’ at home, but never in public!

Conversations that make your head ache.
You recognise the words but somehow they’re not making any sense! Did he really say Mike was dropping him? Who’s Mike? …No, it was a mic drop.

Not being cool anymore.
You’re in the middle of explaining something incredibly interesting when you suddenly notice their expressions checking out and eyes drifting away to a screen.

Discovering a new superpower.
Nothing seems to impress them anymore…but there’s a flipside. Who’d have thought being embarrassing could be so much fun?!  For maximum effect, dance around the house while lip-syncing… just never try to hug them in front of their friends – use your superpower responsibly.

An empty fridge. 
And empty cupboards. That growth spurt – now it’s arrived – seems to be lasting a really long time.

Your kids are still a little shorter than you – just about. 
Enjoy it while it lasts because their ‘tall’ friends are already waaay taller than you. At 12. Hmph…

Asking your 12-year-olds to help you use ‘technology’.
Expect lots of eye rolls when you innocently demonstrate your inferior knowledge of Youtube or the latest memes.

Homework! 
When the moaning gets too much, of course, you offer to help.  Then you quickly realise you have literally no idea how to do it!  (Synonym anyone?!)

Seeing your children become their own, unique person. 
Of course, we did our best to protect our little ones.  Now we can mostly only watch – and be there to listen – as they clamber on that roller coaster of emotions to adolescence. 

Giving (and getting) a little more independence. 
With more independence comes greater responsibility – and more worrying for us!

You can strike ‘social secretary’ off your job description now. 
You’ve taught them to cross the road on their own.  Now they’re taking the bus to school and texting their friends about meeting at the park.

Being able to watch more films with your mini-adults and stay out later. 
However, that does also mean they’re going to bed later and hogging the TV for more.  Your cosy evenings when the TV remote belongs to you may be numbered.

A new kind of conversation
You still have a little more knowledge than them and they still want to hear some of your words of wisdom.  Enjoy it while it lasts!

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