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Tamba's Top 5 Twinline topics

25th January 2019

Did you know that Tamba is not just here for you in a crisis, we are here for you whether you just have a general question about your multiples, want to chat things over for reassurance, or even just get a few things off your chest!  

We are a supportive voice at the end of the phone.

Twinline is open daily between 10 am and 1 pm and again between 7 pm and 10 pm, where your call will be answered by a multiple parent so we can really and truly empathise as we’ve all been there. Sometimes you may need a listening ear from somebody who has been in your situation.

We’re not here to provide medical advice, but we do offer support in lots of areas when it comes to multiples. In fact, our top five topics at Twinline are….

1. Sleep – calls often relate to whether twins should be in the same cot; why aren’t they sleeping through the night and parents asking us if they will ever sleep again? (Don’t worry, you will!) We offer lots of general advice gleaned from many years of experience and will signpost people to the latest advice from The Lullaby Trust which promotes safe sleeping.

2. Behaviour – these calls are usually about fighting and sibling rivalry. Most of this is normal in young children, but in twins, there may be more frustrations than singletons because of a tendency to compare them, which you should try not to do. And it’s difficult to stop others doing it too. We have tips on what you can do to combat difficult behaviour, from ignoring certain things to distraction techniques and positivity.

3. Emotional support – we know it’s tiring having multiples, but take it from us, you’re doing a great job! We often tell parents to break the day into bite-sized chunks. When they’re babies, your job is to feed them, clean them and allow them (and yourself) to sleep! If you’re managing to do that then we think that’s brilliant. Getting them into a routine may come later.

4. Schooling – we get so many calls on this, usually at the time of class changes or going to a new school. Some parents want their multiples in the same class, others don’t. Both is fine. What’s not fine is the school saying it has its own policy on twins. It shouldn’t. We have experts on hand with advice or to help with writing letters to the powers that be.

5. Emotional support when expecting – you’ve just had a scan and found out you’re having twins. This may or may not have come as a shock. We understand. So many things are going through your head. From bigger cars to wondering how big you will get! You may be wondering if it’s normal to have more scans than everyone else, it really is and we always recommend that people read the NICE multiple birth guidelines and our own multiple pregnancy guide.

Twinline co-ordinator Louise Bowman, who’s a mum of twin girls, and an older daughter says: “When you’re a parent of multiples you often need to talk things through with someone else who has been there.

“Singleton parents try their very best, but sometimes chatting things through with someone who truly understands what it’s like when two babies are screaming simultaneously, is the only thing that’s going to get you through the day.

“Twinline is not a crisis service, although we can help if you feel like you are in crisis; we are primarily a listening ear, non-judgemental, supportive and happy to signpost where needed.”

You can also email us if you prefer and we will get back to you within 48 hours at asktwinline@tamba.org.uk

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